Domestic abuse is: "Any incident of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality".
Sometimes, children who live with domestic abuse can experience the following:
If you are experiencing or seeing domestic violence and abuse, remember the abuser is completely responsible for the abuse – you, your brothers and sisters, and the parent being abused are not to blame.
Domestic abuse is not limited to adults; there is an increasing awareness of domestic violence within teen relationships.
All forms of abuse is unacceptable, and needs to be stopped. If you are a young person living in a home where there is domestic violence between the adults, although it might not always be obvious if what’s happening at home is domestic abuse. But if somebody in your family uses bullying or violence to get another adult to do what they want, that’s domestic abuse.
If you’re experiencing domestic abuse in the home where you live, it’s really important to have a safe place that you can go to. And remember, if you or anyone else is ever in danger you should call the Police on 999.
Domestic violence and abuse happens in lots of families and there are people that can help you and your family. Everyone has the right to be and feel safe.If you are a young person experiencing violence or abuse in your own relationship you have a right to have your feelings and your relationship taken seriously whatever your age.
If you feel it’s safe, tell your parents how you feel about what’s happening at home. They may not realise that you know what’s happening or how scary it is. Talk to a trusted adult about what’s happening, this can really help. If you’re worried for your own safety, it’s important to talk to somebody as soon as you can.
You don’t have to deal with what is happening alone, there are people who can help you cope with what is going on.
If you are worried about a child or friend or need help call FREE, any time of the day or night:
The Police - 999
Childline - 0800 1111
The National Domestic Abuse 24 hour Hotline - 0808 2000 247
You can also contact the MASH on 10904 551900 (9-5pm) after hours 01609 780780 or email MASH@york.gov.uk if you are worried about yourself or someone you know
The following organisations can also help you and give you free confidential advice: